I was texting this morning with a good friend of mine who is very unhappy about some of the things going on in the world. I can relate. I, too, am Just Not Real Pleased about a number of things, both in the world and in my personal life. But of course, we always want to offer advice to others when we need it the most ourselves, so I started thinking of things I could say that might help or comfort her, and realized they were things I needed to remember and put into practice, too. So here you go – my advice to myself (and to you, my friends).
Remember the Serenity Prayer?
The most common version is:
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
the courage to change the things I can;
and the wisdom to know the difference.
(You can find a complete version of the prayer on several websites.)
Sounds pretty simple, but it’s a little harder to actually put it in practice. Yet that’s what we need to do, instead of making ourselves sick – literally – about things we have no control over.
Lots of productivity teachers talk about your “sphere of influence”, and how you can be much more productive if you work within that sphere. I propose that our sphere is much larger than we think it is, but we can only access the larger sphere through getting our personal sphere in order.
What You Focus On Increases
If you spend all your time thinking about what’s wrong, it will magnify. If you start finding things that are right, or things that you desire, those will magnify, too. This is not just woo-woo crap. It’s actually an energy function, a way that frequency works.
Everything is frequency – everything. Einstein talked about it (not in the popular quote that goes around Facebook periodically, that’s someone else’s). Einstein said that matter and energy cannot be created; they can only change form. Low frequency energy is matter. Yep, that’s us. Partly. We also have a high frequency part, our field – some call it our aura. That’s as much a part of us as our bodies are – in fact, I think we are primarily energy fields that just happen to be attached for a while to our physical bodies. Our energy field actually has a lot of control over our physical bodies, so keeping that field at a high frequency is important.
Keeping our energy fields at a high frequency increases our physical body’s frequency. When our bodies are at a higher frequency, we are healthier. Lower frequencies allow our immunity to drop and cause our organs to not function at top efficiency. We get sick.
Our thoughts also have frequencies. Thoughts direct our emotions – and as you can guess, “good” thoughts and emotions increase our frequency and boost our immune systems, and “bad” ones cause illness. That’s actually why I consider them good and bad – there are appropriate times for the “bad” emotions, but getting stuck in them will cause you problems, whereas getting “stuck” in “good” emotions doesn’t cause problems. In fact, that’s a desirable condition. (Might I suggest reading Philippians 4:8 and Galatians 5:22-23 – God even tells us to think good things!)
Again, this is not just woo-woo crap. There have been studies done that show increased immune function with higher frequency thoughts and emotions. In fact, even WATCHING something good happen can improve your immunity!
But thinking good thoughts, feeling good emotions, can take some work. Fortunately, there are some techniques that can help you get out of a low-frequency loop and into a higher-frequency loop.
Ways to Do That
Journal – yeah, yeah. This is coming from the person who only passed a journaling class because the instructor liked my creative report on “Zen Journaling” – thinking about journaling instead of actually writing in one. But I actually am convinced of the power of writing things down – not typing on a keyboard like I’m doing now, but actually taking pen or pencil in hand and making marks on paper. They don’t have to be pretty marks, or even represent cohesive thinking. You don’t have to use correct grammar and punctuation or spelling. Just make marks – words, pictures, scribbledy lines. Write prayers, poems, letters to God, letters to friends or public figures that you DON’T MAIL. Write down what you want to see in your life. You can start out with complaints about what’s wrong, but end up with what you want, because … what you focus on increases! (You saw that above, right?)
Tapping, or EFT: This is an easy-to-learn, easy-to-do technique. You simply talk through the issue following a pattern, while tapping with your fingers on specific meridian (energy pathway) points that cause stress reduction and allow you to “program” yourself the way you want to. It’s pretty amazing. I learned it by watching videos and listening to interviews and lectures on the web, during an extremely stressful time, and found it helped tremendously. Here are a couple of links:
The Tapping Solutions’ YouTube Channel
Basic Instructions from tapping.com
Mindfulness, or Centering Prayer: This is a simple-yet-profound practice. Don’t expect to master it overnight, but even imperfect sessions can help with stress reduction and bringing peace to your mind and body. Here are some links:
Contemplative, or Centering Prayer
There is also a very good book called Into The Silent Land, by Martin Laird. I highly recommend it.
Nature: Nature is a great healer. If you can, walk out away from traffic and other people, but even just sitting in a city park with grass and trees will help. I find birdsong to be very relaxing. Being near running water is great – negative ions are produced by the water and help reduce stress.
Yoga and/or mild exercise: Walking and yoga allow your body to flush out accumulated stress chemicals. And both can be done mindfully, giving you a two-in-one benefit, three-in-one if you can do them out in a natural environment!
Essential Oils: Pure essential oils have frequencies, too, and smelling them, diffusing them, or applying them topically has been shown to improve mood, which raises your frequency. Some good oils to use are Lemongrass, Orange, Frankincense, Cypress, Spruce, Fir, Geranium, Jasmine, and Lavender. There are also a few dozen Young Living blends that are good for emotional balance. I must stress here – use only pure, completely natural essential oils from a reliable source. The oils you find in your health food store are not pure, no matter what they say on the label, and inhaling or absorbing topically the commonly-used adulterants will lower your frequency, not raise it.
Water: I already mentioned that flowing water creates negative ions that reduce stress. If you can go to a hot springs or take a warm bath, that will help provide calmness – just keep a handle on what you’re thinking about while you’re soaking! A small indoor water fountain helps, too – again by producing negative ions.
Salt lamps: Salt lamps are reported to produce negative ions, too. I have several in my house and, frankly, haven’t had any noticeable effect from them, but thought I’d mention them, anyway. I keep them on – you never know!
Conclusion – for now
I can see this is not a single blog-post subject. There is a whole area I want to talk about that I haven’t even touched, but this will be a good start. Try a few of these things and see what results you get. Remember – you are getting your personal sphere in order, so that your sphere of influence can increase. You have the power to make real change, but you’re not going to do it if you keep focusing on what’s wrong in the world.
Yup. This advice was definitely for me. I hope it helps you, too.
Blessings, and Be Well~