Life and What We Can Do About It

I was texting this morning with a good friend of mine who is very unhappy about some of the things going on in the world.  I can relate.  I, too, am Just Not Real Pleased about a number of things, both in the world and in my personal life.  But of course, we always want to offer advice to others when we need it the most ourselves, so I started thinking of things I could say that might help or comfort her, and realized they were things I needed to remember and put into practice, too.  So here you go – my advice to myself (and to you, my friends).

Remember the Serenity Prayer?

The most common version is:

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
the courage to change the things I can;
and the wisdom to know the difference.

(You can find a complete version of the prayer on several websites.)

Sounds pretty simple, but it’s a little harder to actually put it in practice.  Yet that’s what we need to do, instead of making ourselves sick – literally – about things we have no control over.

Lots of productivity teachers talk about your “sphere of influence”, and how you can be much more productive if you work within that sphere. I propose that our sphere is much larger than we think it is, but we can only access the larger sphere through getting our personal sphere in order.

What You Focus On Increases

If you spend all your time thinking about what’s wrong, it will magnify.  If you start finding things that are right, or things that you desire, those will magnify, too.  This is not just woo-woo crap.  It’s actually an energy function, a way that frequency works.

Everything is frequency – everything.  Einstein talked about it (not in the popular quote that goes around Facebook periodically, that’s someone else’s).  Einstein said that matter and energy cannot be created; they can only change form.  Low frequency energy is matter.  Yep, that’s us.  Partly.  We also have a high frequency part, our field – some call it our aura.  That’s as much a part of us as our bodies are – in fact, I think we are primarily energy fields that just happen to be attached for a while to our physical bodies.  Our energy field actually has a lot of control over our physical bodies, so keeping that field at a high frequency is important.

Keeping our energy fields at a high frequency increases our physical body’s frequency. When our bodies are at a higher frequency, we are healthier.  Lower frequencies allow our immunity to drop and cause our organs to not function at top efficiency.  We get sick.

Our thoughts also have frequencies.  Thoughts direct our emotions – and as you can guess, “good” thoughts and emotions increase our frequency and boost our immune systems, and “bad” ones cause illness.   That’s actually why I consider them good and bad – there are appropriate times for the “bad” emotions, but getting stuck in them will cause you problems, whereas getting “stuck” in “good” emotions doesn’t cause problems.  In fact, that’s a desirable condition. (Might I suggest reading Philippians 4:8 and Galatians 5:22-23 – God even tells us to think good things!)

Again, this is not just woo-woo crap.  There have been studies done that show increased immune function with higher frequency thoughts and emotions.  In fact, even WATCHING something good happen can improve your immunity!

But thinking good thoughts, feeling good emotions, can take some work.  Fortunately, there are some techniques that can help you get out of a low-frequency loop and into a higher-frequency loop.

Ways to Do That

Journal – yeah, yeah.  This is coming from the person who only passed a journaling class because the instructor liked my creative report on “Zen Journaling” – thinking about journaling instead of actually writing in one.  But I actually am convinced of the power of writing things down – not typing on a keyboard like I’m doing now, but actually taking pen or pencil in hand and making marks on paper.  They don’t have to be pretty marks, or even represent cohesive thinking.  You don’t have to use correct grammar and punctuation or spelling.  Just make marks – words, pictures, scribbledy lines.  Write prayers, poems, letters to God, letters to friends or public figures that you DON’T MAIL.  Write down what you want to see in your life.  You can start out with complaints about what’s wrong, but end up with what you want, because … what you focus on increases! (You saw that above, right?)

Tapping, or EFT:  This is an easy-to-learn, easy-to-do technique.  You simply talk through the issue following a pattern, while tapping with your fingers on specific meridian (energy pathway) points that cause stress reduction and allow you to “program” yourself the way you want to.  It’s pretty amazing.  I learned it by watching videos and listening to interviews and lectures on the web, during an extremely stressful time, and found it helped tremendously. Here are a couple of links:
The Tapping Solutions’ YouTube Channel 
Basic Instructions from tapping.com

Mindfulness, or Centering Prayer: This is a simple-yet-profound practice.  Don’t expect to master it overnight, but even imperfect sessions can help with stress reduction and bringing peace to your mind and body.  Here are some links:
Mindfulness
Contemplative, or Centering Prayer

There is also a very good book called Into The Silent Land, by Martin Laird. I highly recommend it.

Nature: Nature is a great healer.  If you can, walk out away from traffic and other people, but even just sitting in a city park with grass and trees will help.  I find birdsong to be very relaxing.  Being near running water is great – negative ions are produced by the water and help reduce stress.

Yoga and/or mild exercise: Walking and yoga allow your body to flush out accumulated stress chemicals.  And both can be done mindfully, giving you a two-in-one benefit, three-in-one if you can do them out in a natural environment!

Essential Oils:  Pure essential oils have frequencies, too, and smelling them, diffusing them, or applying them topically has been shown to improve mood, which raises your frequency.  Some good oils to use are Lemongrass, Orange, Frankincense, Cypress, Spruce, Fir, Geranium, Jasmine, and Lavender.  There are also a few dozen Young Living blends that are good for emotional balance.  I must stress here – use only pure, completely natural essential oils from a reliable source.  The oils you find in your health food store are not pure, no matter what they say on the label, and inhaling or absorbing topically the commonly-used adulterants will lower your frequency, not raise it.

Water: I already mentioned that flowing water creates negative ions that reduce stress.  If you can go to a hot springs or take a warm bath, that will help provide calmness – just keep a handle on what you’re thinking about while you’re soaking!  A small indoor water fountain helps, too – again by producing negative ions.

Salt lamps: Salt lamps are reported to produce negative ions, too.  I have several in my house and, frankly, haven’t had any noticeable effect from them, but thought I’d mention them, anyway.  I keep them on – you never know!

Conclusion – for now
I can see this is not a single blog-post subject.  There is a whole area I want to talk about that I haven’t even touched, but this will be a good start.  Try a few of these things and see what results you get.  Remember – you are getting your personal sphere in order, so that your sphere of influence can increase.  You have the power to make real change, but you’re not going to do it if you keep focusing on what’s wrong in the world.

Yup.  This advice was definitely for me.  I hope it helps you, too.

Blessings, and Be Well~

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A New Year

I’ve been looking forward to this new year. If you’ve read my other posts, you know the last year has been rough and draining. Several of my friends have had hard times, too – losses of many different kinds.

To me it seems a little odd that January 1 should be a beginning. It’s not the solstice or equinox, or a quarter or cross-quarter, or commemoration of an event. It’s not an observable beginning of any sort, just a random day of which somebody said, “This is the beginning of the year.” But we western peoples been observing it as such for many generations, so I guess that counts for something, for us at least. If you observe the Gregorian calendar, then January 1 is the beginning of a new year.

We need new starts. They keep us from burying ourselves in accumulated muck and “bad vibes”. If we can say, “TODAY I start new”, then we have the energy to dig ourselves out and, well, start new. A lot of people say that’s something we should do daily, and I don’t disagree, but that can also become burying muck if it’s just a ritual. So it helps to have something external, something that doesn’t happen every day, to give us inspiration.

I’m certainly in a clearing-away-and-starting-anew phase of my life. I’m looking at all the pieces and considering whether that’s something that should stay or go. I’m looking at what’s missing, what I’ve wanted and haven’t done. I could probably fill three lives with what I want to do, what I’d like to accomplish. Some of it is for others, some of it is for me, and some of it is for God. Some of it I have the skills/talent/knowledge/ability to do, some of it I’ve never been good at.

We have a very good pastor at our church. We’ve been blessed with good pastors, and certainly blessed with this one. At the new year, he likes to review our church’s mission and purpose statement and the basic tools for accomplishing those things as a church. It’s helpful and centering to go over those things on a periodic basis – bringing us back to where we want to go, and the meaning of our existence as a church and as part of the body of Christ. Hopefully, if you have a religious affiliation your group also has a mission and purpose that lives.

So I’m in the middle of looking at my life, at where I want it to go, who I want it to serve, and how.

The Jewish festival of Chanukah (Hanukkah) is called the Festival of Lights. This year it began on Christmas and ended on New Year’s Day. The Hebrew word Chanukah means “dedication”. Our pastor talked about that, and it really resonated with me. Lately I’ve just been drifting along, but it’s time to rededicate myself to my purpose – which means also finding out what that purpose might be at this point in my life. We have different purposes at different stages of life, so it’s a good thing to review if your life is starting to feel a little stale or out-of-balance. Are you drifting off your path?

I’ll ask you the same questions I’m asking myself:

  • Who do you want to serve?
  • What way(s) can you serve?
  • How are you going to get that done?

Here are some oils I’m using. I don’t use them all at once, just one at a time:
Frankincense (to help connect with God, center myself in Him) and Northern Lights Black Spruce (for the high frequency, to bring mine up). Blends are (in alphabetical order) Grounding, Highest Potential, Hope, Inspiration, Light the Fire, Live with Passion, Present Time, and Release. I’ll probably hit a few more as things develop.

But I think the most important thing I can do is spend time with God – reading His Book, praying, and listening. Nothing can take the place of those things.

Wishing you a blessed new year! May your purpose enliven your heart. May God guide your steps.

Blessings!

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Oils for Introverts

You’d think I would have figured it out before now.  I mean, I’m no spring chicken.  The signs were all there:

  • Stress when in a group of more than two or three people
  • Total exhaustion when I return home from shopping in town
  • Parties and family gatherings faced with dread instead of joy
  • In meetings and classes I’d rather sit in a quiet corner and observe, instead of participate in even happy, lively conversations

I could go on and on.  But it didn’t actually register until I was telling my husband about feeling completely drained from being in a room full of people (church – with people I actually like!).  He laughed and called me his “little introvert”.  A light dinged (hey – it’s all vibration – light can ding!).  Of course!  That explains it!

Part of self-care is knowing what type of care your self needs, and choosing to honor that.  I go to the smaller church service when I can.  I avoid – and no longer feel guilty about missing – the larger, “special” services.  I say “thank you, no” to party invitations, and suggest getting together with the hosts separately another time to visit.

But there are some things I simply can’t avoid.  I need to shop where I can get the fresh foods we choose to eat.  I want to worship with music, and use the gift that God gave me with others for their worship. I want to experience my grandchildren’s birthdays and holidays when I can.

So what is the solution?  Essential oils to the rescue!

I find that Gary Young’s Great Day Protocol is a good way to start.  It takes Valor (*sigh* – I hope someday we get true Valor back.  In the meantime, Valor II or frankincense is okay here.), Harmony, Joy, and White Angelica.  The full protocol can be found here: https://www.youngliving.com/blog/achieve-more-with-gary-youngs-great-day-essential-oils-protocol, but basically it’s a drop of Valor on your wrists, Harmony on the solar plexus, Joy on your heart (and I like to put some on the sacral chakra area, too), and White Angelica on the shoulders and brushed through your body’s field, all done with intention.  This grounds and helps focus my energies, and protects from negative energies.  It’s like putting on my own little energetic body armor.

When I need a “touch-up” or am running a little late, White Angelica is my go-to.

I also have made a personal perfume of rose, ylang-ylang, myrrh, and cassia, with plenty of V6 (diluting oil).  Cassia is like cinnamon’s rowdier cousin.  Where cinnamon politely asks if you would like a cup of tea, cassia hands you a beer and turns the music up.  It’s not for everyone, and use caution as it is a pretty “hot” oil.  For me, this blend acknowledges  and honors all the parts of me and helps to keep me “in myself”.  You will need to discover your own personal blend, one that fits and honors all the parts of you.

What about the days that go too long, or if I was too scattered in the morning to protect my field?  First aid, so to speak.

Several things can help.  I find a drop of frankincense on my brainstem (back of the neck, just under the scull bone) reduces anxiety immensely.  Sometimes I need to reapply it a couple of times before things settle down.  Joy or Forgiveness on the heart helps, too.

You can also diffuse one of these oils: White Angelica, Sacred Mountain, Northern Lights Black Spruce or Idaho Blue Spruce,  Orange or Citrus Fresh, Acceptance.

I keep a spray bottle with pure water that has just a few drops of White Angelica and Sacred Mountain in equal amounts in my home office.  For a quick resetting of energies, I can shake that and spritz the air.

Actually, there are dozens of oils that can help.  These are my go-to oils right now, but flip through your desk reference for other possibilities.  Open your bottles and smell one oil at a time and see how it makes you feel, and get a few to try the next time you are “under assault”.  When you find one that is effective for you, study its composition in your desk reference, then look for other similar oils to try.  Take notes.

We introverts may not be the life of the party or the leader everyone wants to be around.  That’s okay – we can support those people and be the glue that holds things together behind the scenes.  We can all achieve more if we discover and make use of our strengths.

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